Quality Time – Not Always Quantity

When you add up all the time your kids spend at day care, school, sleeping, at friends’ homes, with trustbabysitters, at camp, and otherwise occupied with activities that don’t include you, the remaining moments become especially precious. There are only 940 Saturdays between birth and leaving for college. That may sound like a lot, but how many have you already used up? If your child is 5 years old, 260 Saturdays are gone. And the older your kids get, the busier their Saturdays are with friends and activities. What about weekdays? Depending on your children’s ages and whether you work outside the home, there may be as few as one or two hours a day during the week for you to spend with them.

However, instead of worrying about how many minutes you can spend with your children each day, focus on turning those minutes into memorable moments and “teachable moments.” Teachable moments are those used to open a discussion with your children about things you really want to talk about but are afraid to bring up.

Parents often compensate for having such a small quantity of time by scheduling “quality time.” It could be two hours at the nature preserve; an afternoon at the movies; or dinner at a restaurant. But the truth is that quality time may occur when you least expect it — yes, at the nature preserve, but also in the car on the way to ballet practice.

What other ways can you think of to get quality time with your children? Try to incorporate these:

  • Dinner as a family
  • Bath time for younger children
  • In the car – turn off the radio!
  • Talking together at bedtime

Not every day with your kids will be perfect, but hopefully one day you will greet their departure with a profound sense of satisfaction because you’ve given them what they need to succeed and also given yourself what you need to feel like a successful parent.


Help Your Children with Creative Thinking

Schools often focus on cognitive learning, teaching facts and evaluating the absorption of these facts. Creative thinking, however, leads to future problem-solving and is also an essential part of the learning process. Parents can encourage creative thinking at home through games, to inspire their children to think outside the box. Pretend play is healthy for your children. Work with them to get their creative juices flowing!

1. Paint together. Draw a circle and have them create something from the circle.

2. Read stories and make believe you are the characters in the story and come up with your own ending.

3. Make hand-print pictures. You can outline your child’s hand and have them use their imagination to come up with animal pictures.

There are many other things you can do with your children to get their creative-thinking established. Have fun and play with your kids!


This is the new site for books about a great kid named Aaron. I have two books released so far. See the pages above for a description and to order your copy today!

“Aaron’s Special Family” is a book about every family being different and that’s okay! Whether you are a traditional family, single parent family, two mommy or daddy family, each family is unique and we need to teach our children that it is OKAY to be different.

“Aaron Bug” is a fun story to help you and your children use their imagination. Pretend play is good for the brain!